The 5 Personality Patterns

by Steven Kessler

A bestseller with over 400 5-star reviews

Understanding people this way is like having x-ray vision!

Suddenly, you can see what's going on inside people: you can see what scares them and how they react when scared; you can see how to soothe them and help them feel safer; you can see how to approach them so that they welcome you and how to communicate with them so that they get it.

Finally, there is a simple, clear, true-to-life map of personality that gives you the key to understanding people and communicating with them effectively. This is a book that can change your life.

This is one of the most useful popular psychology books I have ever seen. . . . It should become a classic.
          - Stephen M. Johnson, author of Character Styles and Characterological Transformation

Much of our human suffering is not necessary. It is created by old patterns of feeling and acting that helped us survive the traumas of childhood, but then got stuck in our bodies. These patterns have shaped us so deeply that now we think that’s who we are. But these patterns are not your true self. In fact, they cover up your true self and prevent it from shining out into the world.

Fortunately, there is a map of these survival patterns, a map that helps you:
• Discover how you got stuck and how to get free
• Heal your core wounds
• Learn the skills you missed
• Communicate effectively with others
• Develop emotional maturity
• Become all you can be

This book lays out that map and shows you the path out of your suffering and back to your true self. Once you know where you’re going, the inner journey becomes much easier. Without a map, you may have been walking in circles for years. With a map, you can find your way home.

This is a groundbreaking contribution to the self-help field. It gives you a map of personality that allows you to easily understand yourself and others. It shows you what people caught in each of the five survival patterns want and fear and how to interact with them successfully. And it shows you how to soften your conditioned habits of attention, return to presence, and develop emotional maturity. This book lays out that map and shows you the path out of your suffering and back to your true self. Once you know where you’re going, the inner journey becomes much easier. Without a map, you may have been walking in circles for years. With a map, you can find your way home.

This is a groundbreaking contribution to the self-help field. It gives you a map of personality that allows you to easily understand yourself and others. It shows you what people caught in each of the five survival patterns want and fear and how to interact with them successfully. And it shows you how to soften your conditioned habits of attention, return to presence, and develop emotional maturity.