Your past is still stuck in your body. It still controls your life.
It's time to Liberate Yourself.
Of course, you want your work and your personal relationships to bloom into joy and ease. And you want to make a big contribution to Life.
But things don't always go that way. Sometimes what other people do and say is hard to understand. Sometimes it even seems like they're living in a different world. And just understanding your own feelings and needs can be confusing.
The problem is that you're caught in patterns of automatic thoughts and feelings and behaviors. They started out as ways to feel safer when you were young, but then got so conditioned into your body that now they control everything, from how you perceive to how you feel to how you behave. In fact, they control your life.
And you're not alone. Everyone's personality has been shaped by a few childhood safety strategies that gradually became so automatic that now they control their whole life. As we grow up, the strategies that we adopted to keep us safe gradually begin to confine and limit us. What once kept us safe becomes our prison cell.
So we live our lives caught in a prison that we don't even know is there. We feel caught somehow, but we can't see what confines us and limits us. We just think “That's how I am.”
But you don't have to stay caught in your prison cell. You don't have to let those unconscious patterns control you for the rest of your life. You can learn about the 5 personality patterns and see which ones are running your life. And you can discover how to get out of your patterns and open up once again to the freedom of being present in the moment.
You will step onto that path when you decide to attend The 5 Personality Patterns Intro Workshop. Each module will deepen your understanding of the 5 safety strategies and the personality patterns that grow out of them. You'll discover which patterns you get caught in and how to know when you've gone into pattern. You'll begin learning the skills you need to get out out of pattern and come back to being present.
And you can immediately apply your new knowledge everywhere in your life. Suddenly, it will seem like you have x-ray vision. You'll be able to see what's going on inside those around you -- how they change as they become distressed, what safety strategies they employ, and what they need to feel safer. You'll find yourself able to deal with them more effectively and communicate with them more successfully. Instead of feeling scared or angry or judgmental, you may even find yourself feeling compassion for them.
Others who took this workshop have reported that it shifted them from self-judgment to self-love. Or saved their marriage. Or led to success in their business or profession.
You can have those benefits, too. You can learn what's really happening inside yourself and others. You can learn the skills you need to cultivate a stable, grounded presence and develop emotional maturity.
It's not rocket science. It's just knowledge and practice. But you need a map that shows you where you are now and how to get to where you want to be. This workshop gives you that map and that knowledge.
What people are saying about Steven's work . . .
"This Course will change your life."
“Steven was an excellent instructor with tremendous insight and willingness to help. Bravo!"
Barbara Brennan Practitioner
"This ... is a must for Leaders in gaining self mastery and the ability to understand and relate to others in a powerful, effective way."
J Kellert Ph.D
The Conscious Leadership Center
Previous attendees report that their personal and professional lives bloom, their clients love it, and everything seems to become easier.
Steven Kessler, MFT, EFT Expert & Trainer, has been a licensed psychotherapist for over 30 years, working deeply with Character Structure, Energy Psychology, and awareness itself. Since 1984, he has taught hundreds of groups and seminars in the U.S. and internationally, helping men and women heal their wounds and grow into their full, adult selves.
His bestselling book, The 5 Personality Patterns, lays out a simple, clear, true-to-life map of personality that gives you the key to understanding people and relating to them effectively. Readers email him frequently with stories of how learning to see people this way has enriched their lives and led to both personal and professional success.
During this fun, exciting weekend, you'll discover:
During the 2 days, we'll explore 7 modules.
Module 1: How Personality Forms
How the 5 Safety Strategies become the 5 Personality Patterns
We will begin by exploring what happens inside people when they get distressed, how they habitually respond to try to feel safer, and how those habits shape their entire experience of life. We'll tease out the 5 main safety strategies people use, then help you discover which ones you use to feel safer. And the best part is, instead of listening to someone lecture you about it, you'll be learning it all from real life, from your own behavior and from those around you. You'll be learning to see with your own eyes what's going on inside people.
Module 2: Flee → The Leaving Pattern
“This place scares me. I want to go home.”
The incoming spirit's first task is to settle into the body and attach to it, a process known as Embodiment. If the spirit doesn't feel safe here, it keeps bouncing out of the body. This derails the process of Embodiment, which makes it hard to be here in a human body, but easy to leave.
In module 2 you'll discover:
Module 3: Connect & Please → The Merging Pattern
“I can never get full. I’m not enough. Love will solve everything.”
After coming into the body, the next task is Taking In food and love from others. If there wasn’t enough, a person can get stuck in this stage, still trying to get everything they need from others.
In module 3 you'll discover:
Module 4: Hunker Down & Hide → the Enduring Pattern
“You can't make me. Leave me alone.”
After Taking In, our next developmental task is Putting Out, in the form of self-expression and self-action. If we weren't allowed to say 'No' or be different from our parents, we can get stuck here, hunkered down for safety, but unable to express ourselves, take action, or succeed at anything.
In module 4 you'll discover:
Module 5: Fight → The Aggressive Pattern
"There’s no safety anywhere. It’s a jungle out there.”
Our next developmental task is Trusting Others. If our parents cannot hold us with both love and strength, or if our trust is betrayed and our love is used against us, we may swear off love and trust and turn to power for a sense of safety. If we get stuck there, we lose our sense of connection and belonging, and the world becomes a lonely battlefield.
In module 5 you'll discover:
Module 6: Be Good → The Rigid Pattern
"I am my Performance. So are You.”
If we are loved for our performance and correctness, but not for our hearts and our selves, we tend to lose touch with our inner life and focus on our performance. Outwardly, we become attractive and successful, but we do not develop our inner guidance, our capacity for Trusting Self. Our thinking, feelings, and even our life become stiff and rule-bound.
In module 6 you'll discover:
Module 7: Putting it All Together
Primary and Secondary Patterns
Getting Out of Pattern & Shifting into Presence
In module 7 you'll discover:
"I have been doing deep healing work with clients for the last 9 years and I integrate the Enneagram, energy work and other somatic practices. Steven has done a brilliant and deep work developing and compiling this information in a way that is approachable and also vast. He has obviously put in his time sitting and supporting and studying real humans. This work is a game changer."
MICAH McLAUGHLIN, Naturopathic Practitioner
"Over the years, I have attempted to learn about myself and heal frustrating patterns within myself through studying things like astrology, the Enneagram, Myers Briggs, etc. While I gained bits and pieces from each of those systems, nothing changed my life like learning about the character patterns . . . . As a healthcare provider and a parent, I look forward to a world where this information is more widely accessible to and understood by the general public."
Dr. JEANNIE ACHUFF, ND
"Imagine understanding five clear survival patterns that run through everyone you know and love, everyone you work with and play with, and of course, yourself. Unlike more complicated systems (like the Enneagram with its 9 points), there are only five patterns to understand here, and when you do understand them, you will find that they do a remarkable job of shedding light on your day-to-day experience of yourself and others. Steven Kessler has done a remarkable job of reframing the insights of geniuses like Wilhelm Reich and Alexander Lowen so they can be understood and applied by everyone."
JORDAN GRUBER, Writer
Cost: $295 until 30 days before, $350 after that
CEs: 12 hours (see FAQs below)
Space is limited and pre-registration is required.
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Questions? Please contact the local organizer, shown below.
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Saturday and Sunday,
Oct. 13 & 14, 9am-4pm
1324 Lake Drive SE, STE 4,
Grand Rapids, MI
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Friday and Saturday,
Nov. 16 & 17, 1:30-9:30pm
Yoga Nest Venice
38 W Washington Blvd,
Marina Del Rey, CA
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This course meets the requirements for 12 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences.
Steven Kessler, MFT, is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for CA MFTs, LPCs, LEPs, and LCSWs (CAMFT Approved Provider # 014646.). Steven Kessler, MFT, maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content.
It appears that these CEUs are honored by the licensing boards in many other states, but please check with your licensing board to be sure.
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CE certificates will be awarded at the end of the course.
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Attending together will help you understand each other and will strengthen your relationship. Many friends, sweethearts and family members have attended together and report that their relationship is now much better.
Because these are live, in-person workshops, you must be present to participate.
To get the full benefit of the training, you will need to attend for the entire time. To understand what we're doing, you must attend on the morning of the first day. To check on possibly being absent for a short while at other times, please email the presenter at steven@EFTTherapyCenter.com before registering.
Until 30 days before the training, a full refund is available less a 10% admin fee. After that, refunds are not available.
We intend that all venues are handicap accessible. Please check with the local organizer for details about their venue. If you need other accommodations, please ask the local organizer about those, also.