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Autobiography in Five Short Chapters

Posted by on Mar 24, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

by Portia Nelson I I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost . . . I am helpless It isn’t my fault It takes forever to find a way out. II I walk down the same street, There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in the same place, but it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out. III I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in . . . it’s a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my...

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The 6 Levels of Relationship

Posted by on Feb 25, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

How do you know when you’re in love? How do you even know when you’re in a “Relationship?” How is a capital R “Relationship” different from all the other “relationships” of life? Let’s start by looking at relationships in general: friends, lovers, acquaintances. If we put these on a spectrum according to the amount of emotional investment in the relationship, we discover that they fall into six fairly discrete groups, the six levels of relationship*. 1. Acquaintanceship Acquaintances are the people that we don’t really know; we just...

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Our # 1 Mistake in Relating to Others

Posted by on Jan 31, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Our biggest mistake when relating to others is right there in front of our eyes, yet we’re blind to it. Why? Because we have experienced the world in only one way, that is, our own way. We have never experienced the world in the many different ways that others experience it. So we assume something that is wrong: We assume that everyone else experiences the world the same way we do. It is natural for us to assume this, and it’s normal, in the sense that everyone does it. But it is fundamentally wrong. And it causes big problems in communication, because when someone describes what...

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Re-center Yourself in 5 Seconds

Posted by on Dec 9, 2016 in Centering yourself, Getting out of pattern | 0 comments

This is really easy. It’s the simplest and quickest way I know of to re-center yourself. If you do this once an hour (set a beep on your phone to remind you), within several weeks it will become automatic and you’ll do it without thinking. Let your spine be erect but not stiff. (If you’re sitting, scoot your butt back in the seat.) Inhale up your spine Exhale down your spine Repeat for a few more breaths, if you like   Each time, notice the changes in how you feel inside. And notice the changes in how well you function in your daily life. Gradually, you’ll build...

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Put the Story Aside

Posted by on Dec 9, 2016 in Getting out of pattern, Training your attention | 0 comments

Whenever you’re in pattern or in any kind of emotional reaction, you are telling yourself a story about what is happening. But the story comes from your past.  It comes from something that happened to you then, but may not be happening to you now. It’s a conditioned response. Whenever that button gets pushed, that story plays out in your head in living color. But it’s from the past, so it actually clouds your awareness of the present. And it causes you to feel the emotions that go with the story, not the emotions that go with what is actually happening right now. Our minds like to make up...

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What Do You Want More Of ?

Posted by on Dec 9, 2016 in Training your attention | 0 comments

Energetic Principles  The first principle of the energetic world is that “energy follows thought.” This means that when you put your attention on something, your energy also goes there. You begin sending energy to the object of your attention. You’re doing it right now by putting your attention on these words. You also do it when you tie your shoes, remember a kiss, or fear a rejection. As you put your attention on each of these things, some of your energy goes there. The second principle of the energetic world is that “energy feeds things.” This means that...

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The Secret Behind All Meditation Practices

Posted by on Nov 27, 2016 in Training your attention | 1 comment

Maybe you’ve done various forms of meditation. Maybe you’ve done several kinds of yoga. Maybe you’ve had a prayer practice or a gratitude practice. But have you ever asked yourself, What’s behind all of these practices? What are they all trying to do? What’s the foundation of all of them? The answer is, they’re all attentional practices. They all make you practice holding your attention on one thing. They all instruct you to focus on one object of attention. When your attention moves away, they all tell you to bring it back. Training Your Attention...

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