There is a whole field of study called Adult Development, which specializes in studying the psycho-social development of adults. It's less well known than the field of Child Development, but it seems much more useful for understanding what is going

Many years ago, sitting in a workshop room in Oregon, I listened as the workshop leader told us that human beings have 4 powers: the power to think, to feel, to decide, and to act. I wasn’t so sure about

In the world of transformational inner work, there’s a phenomenon that is often called ‘the turn.’ It is the time when the main goal of a person’s life shifts from the usual one of pursuing pleasure and avoiding pain to

As I've gotten older, I've decided to focus more on Learning through Joy, rather than the usual method, Learning through Suffering.What is that? Well, one answer to the question, “Why is there so much suffering in the world?” is that

Everyone wants to feel safe. My 40 years of experience as a therapist has led me to believe that it is the first need for everyone, the need that comes before other needs. Some people say that we need to

This is an old teaching, but it's fundamental to understanding people, so I wanted to make sure you're aware of it.The basic idea is simple: we have three centers of intelligence in our bodies, not just one. These three centers

Imagine you're eating an apple. You feel the crunch against your teeth. You taste the juiciness, the sweetness and the tartness, the texture as you chew. Then you swallow and it goes down into your stomach. Your body starts to

This article is going to be shorter than most, because the main idea is very simple: Speed. Kills. Feeling. In other words, if you're having feelings that you don't like, one way to get away from them is to speed